Month: April 2020
Day 51
[Note: Our school district’s first official day of Don’t Enter the Building was Thursday, March 5th, which became Day 1 on my calendar. Wired puts it at March 11th, but that magazine probably doesn’t have kids in my neighborhood school.]
This week, my experimental parenting of “I’ll support you in whatever ways you ask for, but your teachers are giving you to-dos, and I’m trusting that you will DO them” philosophy went to shit. Yes, shit. So today started with me throwing Piper in the shower, taking away her jammies, setting her up at her desk and not in her bed, for period 5, the first class on Fridays. Then, making sure she was actually Zooming at 9am, I got to see her face when she realized that she hadn’t even thought about the project assigned a week ago that was due today. That was probably less drastic than my face when I saw she hadn’t done ANY of the assignments since approximately Day….2. I’ve been forcing her to keep up with math and English and assumed the others she could manage. I don’t like to be the literal motherboard that all brains under this roof must plug into, but the consequences in which Piper will supposedly learn her lesson probably won’t be obvious for several years, and the bad habits will really be ingrained by then. What Piper learned is there is no lockdown like a Mama lockdown.
Kyla’s not doing great either. She focused on a really cool science project and a lot of books and gardening last week and went from being ahead in math to behind. Really behind. You know who you can gain 10 pounds in one [ahem, really amazing!] weekend, but need at least a month to lose it? While, keeping up with classes is just like that. This is the online algebra course done outside the school so we could, you know, travel around the world, and she could start geometry next fall. Ironically, she will probably be the most prepared math student next year returning to class…if she catches up.
Guess what? This Saturday isn’t a weekend for the girls.
Oddly, the day turned out surprisingly well. For speech, Wes and I played a new board game. I think the point is to say “red”, “green”, and “orange” a lot, but I’d rather just play (by “play”, I mean “win”) the game rather than have another conversation with the kid I’m around all day. But somewhere, I got the giggles. So when Wes somehow simultaneously tripped over the coffee table, the couch, the pillow, and his own container of pistachios “accidentally” covered in honey, I laughed. And when he started doing his death scream over his scratched ankle, well, dear reader, I howled. I held him after I grabbed an icepack so that I could continue silent hysterics behind his back. The girls quickly caught it too, and when I eventually pulled myself together, I found him in his room, feelings and ankle hurt, but not irrevocably. 
Piper, in lockdown on her pre-tech assignments, had finished the one due today and started working the Rube Goldberg assignment, where she made a tea-making machine for me. It was actually great fun and led to a few rabbit trails. First of all, we watched a few youtube videos on remarkable Rube Goldberg machines–this one most impressed me, and even more so hours later, when Piper completed her 5-step machine.
Here’s what we’re calling Take 10:
Family Antics
Happy Easter, from both Denise and the Evil Easter Bunny
We have hosted Easter for so many years (2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2016, 2018, 2019) with the exception of the year that we got a stomach bug the night before and just packed up the dinner for others, we kind of only knew one way to celebrate. After mixing our personal and religious observations with family secular traditions, we would host a dinner and egg hunts for all the family and friends we could gather to us. Every single year, it both stressed me out before and brought great pleasure during and after.
This year was going to be different; we would be with Dwayne’s brother, Dan and his wife, Deborah, and a few crew, as we traveled up an Amazon tributary. Perhaps I would have tried to purchase chocolate bunnies for everyone in our day in Manaus before boarding, but we wouldn’t have been able to add the Evil Easter Bunny to our luggage, and I don’t think we would have found any churches accessible either by geography or language. It was going to be our own restart.
But we got another restart instead. What if it is just the 5 of us for Easter, just a third, or even fourth, of our usual? What if we still celebrated, the religious holiday, or silly traditions, and ourselves?
It was an amazing day.
I came up with a bacon, bread, and blueberry breakfast to eat while we watched the service on youtube live. Then the Evil Easter Bunny hid the bunnies with clues of where the baskets were hidden. Dwayne got to learn that we keep the extra airfilters in a box on top of the wardrobe in the mudroom. All these years, and he was unaware….much to EEB’s knowledge and amusement. 

While we were still dressed up (yes, Wes considers himself well dressed in black polyester pants–because they are uncomfortable enough to be dressy, but not torturous like, gasp!, jeans–and the sweater Grandma knitted 4 or 5 years ago), we brought fresh bouquets to my aunt’s homecare and we were able to wave and shout hello from the sidewalk. Then we did the same for my parents, but got to stay much longer chatting from the lawn to the front porch. Grown ups are invariably boring, so my feral children wrestled together, much like I picture young wombats would intoxicated on spring sunshine.
The kids surprised us with another egg hunt. They had found the camouflaged eggs–ones made to look like grass, rocks, etc– and filled them will little drawings and love notes and ordered us to find them.
Then we turned the tables, brought out a dose of the EEB, and hid the camo eggs so well that they were hunting them while we made (“made”, thanks Costco!) our Easter dinner. Salmon and lamb, veggies, and no deviled eggs. Since the kids don’t eat hardboiled eggs, we let our first Lent go by without dyeing eggs, and maybe I’m hardboiled myself, but I didn’t particularly miss (mess!) it.
Books Read in the Last Two Months
First of all, this is truly a well done memoir. Its whole title is “How I Lost my Mother, Found my Father, and Dealt with Family Addiction”. This is one I have to keep for a while from the library, because I want my kids to hear it, too. It’s a book well written for both generations. It’s probably even worth my mother reading it!
Just a Day in this New World

Wes had a Lego class before school that switched to online Zoom meetings to conclude. On Friday, as a bonus project, Wes made a self-portrait. I thought the exercise was interesting, but I am not very good at abstract art. Wes says he is wearing sunglasses and his hair is covering up one of his eyes.
Later, Dwayne and I went for a walk. As is the rule, we cannot do a family activity that all 3 kids want to participate in. Wes was the full-body pouter this time. But if you look closely, you’ll notice all the kids are wearing headphones and listening to music or a story as we walk. This both annoys me and makes me glad that Dwayne and I can chat uninterrupted. And it gave us extra entertainment as we walked home as Wes started boogying to whatever he was listening to, oblivious to the world around him. That kid loves to dance!
A new tree has fallen across the path in the last week. No bear was caught underneath.
Oh, Patient Kyla! Wes loves being Wesley-sized–he can jump on anyone and just hang on like the tumor he is. Kyla encourages this.
Marching Out
Wes built a weapon holder out of scrap wood.
























































