First of all, this is truly a well done memoir. Its whole title is “How I Lost my Mother, Found my Father, and Dealt with Family Addiction”. This is one I have to keep for a while from the library, because I want my kids to hear it, too. It’s a book well written for both generations. It’s probably even worth my mother reading it!
Author: Denise
Just a Day in this New World

Wes had a Lego class before school that switched to online Zoom meetings to conclude. On Friday, as a bonus project, Wes made a self-portrait. I thought the exercise was interesting, but I am not very good at abstract art. Wes says he is wearing sunglasses and his hair is covering up one of his eyes.
Later, Dwayne and I went for a walk. As is the rule, we cannot do a family activity that all 3 kids want to participate in. Wes was the full-body pouter this time. But if you look closely, you’ll notice all the kids are wearing headphones and listening to music or a story as we walk. This both annoys me and makes me glad that Dwayne and I can chat uninterrupted. And it gave us extra entertainment as we walked home as Wes started boogying to whatever he was listening to, oblivious to the world around him. That kid loves to dance!
A new tree has fallen across the path in the last week. No bear was caught underneath.
Oh, Patient Kyla! Wes loves being Wesley-sized–he can jump on anyone and just hang on like the tumor he is. Kyla encourages this.
Marching Out
Wes built a weapon holder out of scrap wood.
Non Voyage*
This morning, we should have caught the o’dark early flight to Lima, via Atlanta.
We would have started our adventure with a night in Lima, Peru, and maybe seen the amazing fountains in the evening.
We wouldn’t have much time before heading to the Nazca Lines for three days, but these are some of the local sights the hotel boasts of. I’m kind of interested in the macabre skulls and burials.
We will make it eventually, as the trip has only been postponed for months or a full year. Earlier this week, we officially canceled the African leg (Safari in Kruger National Park, Cape Town, Egypt & Jordan tour), and are waiting for our SE Asia itinerary to cancel on us, so we lose less money. If anyone can predict the next 4 months, you know better than I if we can at least make Australia, NZ, and Fiji and take Dwayne’s vacation time in Oceana as already scheduled.
Even though my suitcase is not unpacked, I’m not feeling too morose about it, as it the new normal has eradicated my trip mindset, and now we are living a lifestyle that is diametrically opposed to what we planned for this spring.
*Brilliant title must be fully credited to Georgia Y, teacher, bibliophile, and friend extraordinaire.
If You Give a Pig a Paintbrush….
Hopefully you have had the pleasure of reading Laura Numeroff’s picture book, but basically all of them are about how one idea leads to another, exhausting, idea.
It really started when Dwayne thought we should really fix the peeling ceiling in our shower. Of the 3 showers in the house, the kids prefer ours, and occasionally one of them feels the need to spray the entire shower with water. For the second time in ten years, I scraped, mudded, textured, primed, and repainted the ceiling. And that is almost impossible to do without also doing some of the wall. So I repainted the bathroom, walls, trim, and door. And no reason to put up the ugly wicker shelf that I got used twenty years ago–the only thing holding it together was dust and cobwebs, so we bought a new cabinet. And shower head (incapable of spraying the ceiling). And faucet. And non-rusty caddy. A good scrubbing, and the bathroom was done, just as the kids were entering their second full stay-at-home week. Honestly, her room has bothered me for years and so we came to an agreement. She wanted to get rid of the wardrobes, get a smaller dresser, and paint the room purple. To make that happen, she had to shed a lot of crap. If she could do that, we would find a craigslist dresser of her choice, paint the room together, and Dwayne and I would take out the wardrobes–its own Herculean task.
I will never forget, in spite of my best efforts, of teaching Piper to paint a room. (She started by putting paint on the roller, using her hand a spatula.) But she looked so darn cute wearing a set of my paint clothes!
We started Wednesday removing the wardrobe, and by Friday night, the room was put back, carpet shampooed, and touch ups completed. She loves it, and I really appreciate how much less stuff she kept. In fact, along with the wardrobe, we were able to deliver her outgrown toys and art supplies and dresses to a single mother with foster kids, in addition to the Ikea wardrobe we no longer needed.
That project pretty much used up my project energy, but Dwayne still had a little more. The gaps in our beautiful kitchen floor are a results of not doing the entire upstairs remodel at one time, and needing to use click-in planks instead of glue-down–and of course, of actually using the kitchen. No other place gets that much foot traffic, and a board in every row was gapping significantly.
Of course, this time it wasn’t as easy to just take off the trip closest to the gap and crowbar it into place, as the flooring went under the very intractable pantry. After some head-scratching, Dwayne thought using friction, a large mallet, and his foot to close the gap one plank at a time over about 20 feet of flooring. But nothing he tried held well enough. Finally, he turned to his friend, Bing, and found that others had used double-sided sticky tape. Eureka! While I was shampooing carpets (because the shampooer was out, and that pig still had that darn pancake), he fixed the floors and knows how to do it in another few years when they spread out again.
Day 20: Three Insights that Have Resounded with Me during "Stay At Home"
And the people stayed home.
And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and learned new ways of being, and were still. And listened more deeply.
Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently.
And the people healed. And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal.
And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed to images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.”
~Kitty O’Meara
NPR had a newsletter with a blurb I identified with right away: Anyone else failing miserably at homeschooling their kids? We started out very Dumbledore, but now we’re definitely heading toward Snape — maybe even a little Umbridge.
Kids learned from Snape, right? Potions, DADA, and maybe some regular life lessons about unfairness and mean adults.
And something a both Profane and Profound:
Wow– Family Night WORKED!
- Set up the board before dinner in the middle of the island (which is almost meta…’cuz Settlers is an island…our island is our kitchen table…yep, deep).
- We ate dinner while studying the board and discussing the different resources and chances of earning them.
- Once we had the basic idea, we started the game by setting up our pieces. By this time, the kids were really excited to put their pieces on the board.
- Once dinner was over and the game was ready to really play, I announced it was make-your-own sundaes night while we played.
- The kids LOVED it! Dwayne and I kept catching each other’s eye, as if to say, “Are these our children? Why is this going so well? Three out of 3–this is unprecedented!”
The Settlers of Catan
Padilla Bay afternoon
It was too early for the tulip festival (and it was canceled anyway), but we were able to drive past daffodil fields on our way home. My kids stayed in the car, exhausted, and more important, shoeless, but I enjoyed the gorgeous scenery!
Did I Say Round the World? Oops, my bad.
Well, that ship has sailed…without us, if I can make a weak witticism. Of course, it’s far more complicated than that, since our adventure wasn’t a Costco-purchased, 120 day, all-inclusive cruise; the itinerary is a patchwork of different multi- and single-day tours, international and domestic flights, destination hotels and overnight accommodations that took our travel agent months and months to sew together. It will take as long to unravel. It is easy to amputate the first leg of the trip when airports are closed, but harder to cancel for a refund for months in the cloudy future. We will be in Australia and New Zealand in June; both of those countries, within a few days, went from general travel restrictions to mandatory 14-day quarantines for those entering the country to, today, closing borders to non-citizens. But no one has the crystal ball to know what next month looks like, so summer seems really beyond our understanding.
But in the meantime, we’ll be hunkering down at home, trying not to be part of the problem…and apparently watching something called Beast Masters on Netflix.



















































